Hello. For March this year it is my first time hosting the carnival of Aros, a monthly blogging carnival based around aromanticism and related topics.
The topic I would like you to consider this month is stability. Whether that is in life, relationships or communities. One of the things I have heard argued about romance and about marriage in particular is that it has benefits for stability, both for the relationship as well as for society, raising children, etc. So I thought we could turn that around and think about stability from an aromantic perspective.
Here are a few prompts which might get you started:
Thinking about stability:
- What does stability mean to you?
- What does a stable relationship mean to you?
Self Stability:
- How do you cultivate stability in your own life? For example your own financial stability, or keeping a stable mental state. Are these things linked to your aromanticism?
Stability in aromantic relationships:
- For those who would like some form of queer platonic relationship, is stability something you value in that relationship and if so how do you cultivate it?
- If you would like long lasting friendships, how do you go about keeping them? Do you worry that your friendships may not last if that friend enters a romantic relationship?
- For those who would like non romantic sexual relationships, is stability something you desire in a sexual partner/partners (e.g. a long term FWB). If so how do you maintain that stability?
- If you are raising or want to raise children outside of a romantic relationship, what do you hope to do to give those children a stable environment?
Stability in aromantic communities
- How do we grow stability in aro communities and what do you do to help that.
- How do we make aro spaces (such as this carnival) resilient to the loss of a small number of people
Feel free to use these or go off in any direction you want.
Entries to this carnival are due by 31st March. If you have something to submit after this just let me know and I will add it to the roundup when you get it to me.
To submit your entry leave a comment here, or email me at spikesandbills@gmail.com or comment/message me over on Arocalypse.
If you don’t have a blog and want to submit an entry for me to post here please email me and let me know either a name to use or tell me if you would prefer to post anonymously. I will then put your post here as a guest post.
Roboticanary 
This is a really cool topic!
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Thank you, I was quite nervous writing my first topic/prompt set so I’m glad you like it
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Here’s my submission: https://sildarmillionjournal.wordpress.com/2022/03/30/a-random-rant-on-master-bedrooms/
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Also, I just saw this, and maybe you’ve seen this before (it’s from a few years ago), but it seemed very relevant to this month’s theme:
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On second thoughts, the video is still pretty amatonormative … but it discusses some really great ideas about how we ought to be prioritizing our personal happiness and comfort instead of trying to achieve a societal ideal.
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Here’s my submission. Hope you like it! This shows my journey of trying to find stability in relationships and figuring out my feelings.
https://wildandstormymind.com/2022/03/31/an-aromantics-quest-to-find-a-stable-loving-relationship/
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Hi! My reply is here: https://arobydesign.wordpress.com/2022/03/31/aromantic-stability/
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Here’s my submission: https://www.writingforlife.net/index.php/2022/03/30/the-stability-of-being-aro-ace/
Basically my thoughts on how I personally find being aro/ace a source of stability, as opposed to the view that relationships provide it.
Thanks for hosting this month!
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